Ariana Grande has shut down a troll in the most incredible, feminist way, after they blamed her for Mac Miller’s recent arrest, simply for being his ex-girlfriend.
For centuries women have been used as a scapegoat to justify men’s behaviour. But although 2018 is our most feminist year yet (a small whoop for the 100 year anniversary of the vote for women, efforts to remove the gender pay gap and the unveiling of more female statues please), women are still being shamed for our male counterpart’s actions. Particularly, those in the public eye, who can be easily trolled for the world to see on social media.
There’s one celebrity that won’t stand for it, though, and that’s Ariana Grande.
Grande and American rapper Mac Miller recently ended their two year relationship with E! News reporting on the 9 May that the couple’s schedules had become too busy and Grande confirming on Instagram that the pair would remain friends.
A week later, TMZ reported that Miller had become involved in a hit-and-run accident while driving under the influence, and has been arrested as a result.
Despite this clearly being a difficult and worrying time for Miller and those close to him (whom we imagine Grande is one of), a male troll on Twitter thought this would the perfect opportunity to fire insults at Grande and actually blame her for Miller’s illegal activity, despite her not being present or involved in the crime at all.
The Twitter user wrote: “Mac Miller totalling his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a ten song album to her called the divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood.”
It goes without saying that there are so many things wrong with this tweet. From the idea that a woman should feel bound to stay in a relationship simply because of the compliments she’s received, to alluding that breaking up with someone makes you personally responsible for their actions afterwards, this Twitter user’s misogyny is literally off the scale.
And a few days later, Grande made her thoughts on the tweet known, coming back with the most eloquent, feminist response we could have ever wished for.
Replying directly to the troll’s tweet, she wrote: “How absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them.
“I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety and prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. Let’s please stop doing that.”
Grande signed off her tweet with elegance, expressing her hope that her friend would feel better soon.
“Of course I didn’t share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening but it was. I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other woman in this position does as well.”
Grande’s incredible response rang true with many Twitter users, and even the initial troll, who then posted a full apology recognising that Grande should “in no way” be blamed for “Mac’s short comings” and that “every woman is equal to a man and has the same exact right to pursue their happiness to the fullest.”
Well we’re glad that the message finally got through and we hope that Grande’s amazing statement makes that crystal clear for anyone thinking otherwise.