Ariana Grande speaks out after ‘sick’ encounter with sexist fan

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Ariana Grande has joined the good fight against the objectification of women.

The 23-year-old singer took to Twitter to describe a “sick” encounter with a fan, in which she was left feeling hurt and objectified.

Grande explained how she had gone out with her partner, Mac Miller, when a young fan of the rapper approached their car.

Speaking to them through their window, he told them that he greatly admired Miller, before turning to Grande and saying: “Ariana is sexy as hell, man; I see you, I see you hitting that!”

Disgusted by the crude comments about her, Grande penned a note about the incident and published it to her social media pages.

In it, she explains: “Hitting that? The f**k?? This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified.

“I was also sitting right there when he said it. (?) I've felt really quiet and hurt since that moment. Things like happen all the time and are the kinds of moments that contribute to women's sense of fear and inadequacy.

“I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilise for his pleasure. I'm an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect.”

Grande continues: “It hurts my heart that so many young people are so comfortable enough using these phrases and objectifying women with such ease.”

The Side by Side singer goes on to underline her reasons for publicly addressing the incident, saying that she knows ”very well that most women know the sensation of being spoken about in an uncomfortable way publicly or taken advantage of publicly by a man”.

“We need to talk about these moments openly because they are harmful and they live on inside of us as shame,” she says. “We need to share and be vocal when something makes us uncomfortable because if we don't, it will just continue.”

Grande signs off with the life-affirming statement: “We are QUEENS.”

Despite her powerful words, however, some social media trolls have accused Grande of hypocrisy.

“Yet you objectify yourself in your music,” wrote one. “I mean, I’m glad you’re standing up for women, but you’re also a tad hypocritical.”

Unsurprisingly, Grande refused to accept this criticism.

“That’s the thing,” she tweeted back. “Women expressing sexuality is often mistaken for, ‘hi, come disrespect me!’, and that’s just not the case.

“Women and men can express themselves however they’d like - even loving sex. This is not an invitation to be disrespected.”

Grande finished by saying: “By the way, I am not fighting with you.

“It’s an important conversation, and I’ll be as loud as I need to be until people understand.”


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Kayleigh Dray

Kayleigh Dray is Stylist’s digital editor-at-large. Her specialist topics include comic books, films, TV and feminism. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends.