Ariana Grande is off the market. Period.
There’s something about the start of a new year that gives us reason to reflect on the choices (both good and bad) that we’ve made over the past 12 months and, in turn, push the refresh button.
Earlier this week a fan tweeted Grande, asking if she was currently dating. And her response was brilliant: “Spoiler for the rest of this year / probably my life: it’s no one. Please refer back to this tweet for future questions.”
Doesn’t it seem like the best way possible to start off the year because what’s more important than looking after yourself? Not so long ago, a single woman who was perfectly happy without a partner was seen as a figure to be feared or pitied – but now, spending time alone is being reframed as an important element of looking after yourself. And it seems fair to say that Grande deserves to practise self-care right now. At the beginning of 2018, the singer revealed she was struggling to cope with anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), after a man walked into the Manchester Arena on 22 May 2017 and detonated a bomb at her concert – killing 22 of her fans and injuring more than 500 others.
“I think a lot of people have anxiety, especially right now, she said at the start of 2018. “My anxiety has anxiety … I’ve always had anxiety. I’ve never really spoken about it because I thought everyone had it, but when I got home from tour [in September 2017] it was the most severe I think it’s ever been.”
In May 2018, the singer released an emotional statement confirming she’d ended her two-year relationship with rapper Mac Miller. Fast-forward a few months, and Grande announced her engagement to Pete Davidson after the pair hit it off during an appearance on Saturday Night Live.
But in September Miller died of a suspected drug overdose at the age of just 26. Weeks later, Grande called off her engagement to Davidson.
Can you blame Grande for taking a step back from relationships and focusing on the most important one of all – the one she has with herself – in 2019? If we’ve learnt anything by now, it’s that society places a lot of expectation and focus on people pairing up – but being in a serious relationship isn’t for everyone, all of the time. Sometimes we all need time to step back, breathe, and prioritise no one except ourselves.
Grande isn’t the only one focusing on self-love this year as Queer Eye’s Jonathan Van Ness is taking a similar route in 2019 after announcing his split from his partner Wilco Froneman.
“Let me tell you something I’ve learned the hard way time and time again,” he posted on Instagram. “Giving myself fully to people who don’t deserve it continues to bear very bitter fruit. Focusing on giving myself attention, nurturing, and so much compassion will always bear gorgeous fruit.”
Van Ness previously announced that he had split from Froneman on Instagram, using lyrics from Ariana Grande’s already iconic break-up anthem thank u, next.
“Rounding out my 2018 with a very gorg THANK U NEXT,” he wrote, adding the hashtag #selflove. “Please don’t go in on Wilco, he doesn’t need the anger and I don’t want to see him suffer, so just know I’m all good and sometimes people break up – Love you all so much.”
So this year, follow Van Ness and Grande’s lead and treat being single as a chance to focus on what matters: your own happiness.
The evidence of stress in our lives is everywhere, from bad sleep to increased anxiety. So in January 2019, stylist.co.uk is dedicated to creating a life less frazzled. We’ll be focusing on uplifting news, feelgood features and recommendations for fun things to do, with the goal of making you feel calmer and more positive about the coming year.