“I have never been one to cage my feelings and emotions in any capacity. I am human. It brings me pure joy to speak my mind.”
At some point in our lives, we will all experience feelings of insecurity. In fact, it’s probably one of the main things we all share, no matter where we come from or what we look like.
Having the courage to speak openly about our insecurities is something we’re less likely to have in common, however - it takes a certain kind of bravery to put your worries and fears out into the world. So when people attacked Ayesha Curry for speaking openly about the insecurities she suffers within her relationship – she gave them a response.
In an appearance on Red Table Talk, Jada Pinkett Smith’s intimate talk show, the actress and celebrity cook spoke honestly about the challenges she has faced as the wife of NBA superstar Stephen Curry.
One of her biggest insecurities, she admitted, comes from the attention her husband gets from other women.
“I honestly hate it,” she said. “We had the conversation about it and he tries really, really hard to make sure that if we’re going somewhere I’m being introduced.
“I don’t like to have to introduce myself - it irks my nerves,” she said.
“I have zero - this sounds weird - but like male attention,” she continued. “So then I begin to internalise it and I’m like, ‘Is something wrong with me?’ I don’t want it, but it would be nice to know that, like, someone’s looking.”
Curry’s honesty is pretty refreshing – but that doesn’t mean everyone was happy to hear her story.
“Women never outgrow the attention craving stage that men outgrow in their early 20’s #AyeshaCurry,” one Twitter user said.
“So #AyeshaCurry wants men to catcall her so she can feel as though she ‘still has it’,” another response read. “Isn’t the wedding ring and three kids and him not known for cheating or affairs all the validation she needs…”
The problem is, these responses kind of (completely) miss the point of what Curry was saying. She isn’t saying she wants to be catcalled – she’s just being open and honest about how her situation makes her feel.
Luckily, there are still some sane people in this world who were able to understand this.
“Having children back to back, packing on extra pounds, body changing, getting older into your 30’s can make any woman feel vulnerable and make them question whether they ‘still got it’,” one person pointed out. “Quit hating on this woman for being honest and opening up on this topic.”
As the topic took over the internet, Curry herself decided enough was enough, and took to her Instagram to address the situation.
In a long caption, Curry laid out her feelings on the situation – making sure to assure her haters that she was never going to change.
“I have never been one to cage my feelings and emotions to any capacity,” she wrote.” I am human. It brings me pure joy to speak my mind, be vulnerable at times and to know myself inside and out.
“As women,” she continued. “Let’s continue to uplift, empower and not suppress and compress our feelings and thoughts, as fleeting as some of them may be. Love to you all! Go FIND YOUR JOY and SPEAK YOUR TRUTH unapologetically.”
You tell them Ayesha.