There is no better person on this planet to dispense self-confidence tips than Beyoncé. From her historic record-breaking performance at Coachella to her impeccably cool Instagram account, Queen Bee has been given the moniker for good reason. In short: we worship her and applaud her super confident ways.

It’s comforting to know, then, that Queen Bee wasn’t born this way – she’s had to work through the ups and downs (just like us mere mortals) to become the powerful woman she is today.

“There are many shades on every journey. Nothing is black or white. I’ve been through hell and back, and I’m grateful for every scar,” Beyoncé wrote recently. “I have experienced betrayals and heartbreaks in many forms. I have had disappointments in business partnerships as well as personal ones, and they all left me feeling neglected, lost, and vulnerable.”

But, in true Queen Bee-style, the singer admitted that she’s always picked herself up and tried again by “learning to laugh and cry and grow”.

And these tough life lessons have allowed Beyoncé to grow into the woman she is today.

“I look at the woman I was in my twenties and I see a young lady growing into confidence but intent on pleasing everyone around her,” she wrote in Vogue.

Now, at the age of 36, she is more confident than ever.

“I now feel so much more beautiful, so much sexier, so much more interesting. And so much more powerful,” she added.

Beyoncé nails the big difference between your twenties and thirties