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Someone asked Cameron Diaz why she didn’t get married until she was 42

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Cameron Diaz hasn’t been seen on the big screen since she appeared in 2014 musical flick, Annie, so her fans were naturally excited to hear that she was appearing alongside Gwyneth Paltrow at the Goop Wellness Summit.

However, while we expected the 44-year-old to be quizzed about her career, hobbies, and dreams, Paltrow decided to channel that annoying relative we all have and ask Diaz why she waited until she was 42 to get married for the first time.

Diaz – who has famously said in the past that she loved being single and had never been bothered about marriage – tilted her head to one side as she considered how best to answer such a personal question.

And then she responded: “I think it's a matter of I just hadn't met my husband. I had boyfriends before, and there's a really, really distinct difference between husbands and boyfriends.”



The Charlie’s Angels actor then went on to reveal that she made a conscious decision to never marry anyone who made her feel less than equal. However, owing to modern society’s ingrained misogyny, this – Diaz explained – proved difficult to find.

“We women are objectified so much,” she said, pointing out that so many of her exes treated her (however unwittingly) as inferior.

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It wasn’t until she met Good Charlotte frontman Benji Madden, 38, that she discovered relationships could be very different indeed.

“Somehow my husband has just been able to kind of show me what it's like not to have that [sense of inequality] be a part of a relationship,” shared Diaz.

“I never experienced that before. I'd never been loved in that way.”



Diaz went on to add that although she and her husband are “so different from one another” they complement each other well.

“I have a husband who is just my partner in life and in everything,” she said.  “[But] talk about two very different people!

“We are so different from one another, but we share the same values — we're totally two peas in a pod.”

Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden

Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden

Diaz married Madden in 2015 after dating for seven months – but she didn’t go into the relationship looking for a sense of completion, or in pursuit of that much touted ‘happy ever after’.

Instead, she embraced a full and happy life, pursued sizzling sexual fulfilment with the likes of Justin Timberlake and Jared Leto (she readily admitted that she was “always travelling for c**k”), and worked on becoming her best self.

And, because she wasn’t willing to compromise and say ‘I do’ to someone who made her feel less than her best, she became the poster girl for happy single women everywhere.

“There are many soul mates,” she told Marie Claire. “My soul has a lot of different facets and it needs a lot of different men. Friends, too. Friends can be soul mates.”

Diaz continued: “For some reason, we get into relationships and we expect one man to understand all the parts of us and meet all of those needs. I think that’s where everything fails.”

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Kayleigh Dray is editor of Stylist.co.uk, where she chases after rogue apostrophes and specialises in films, comic books, feminism and television. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends. 

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