“It is theeeee most common question with him. Please stop.”
For many, they are the definition of “couple goals” and it’s obvious why. The pair have always been honest and open about their marriage and family, approaching their fame with frankness and a sense of humour. What’s not to love?
So when journalists ask either Teigen or Legend about each other in an interview, we get it. Everyone wants to know more about the ‘Leigends’ (we’ll workshop that). But we are very disappointed to find out that the most common question that Legend is asked in an interview is a deeply misogynistic one about Teigen.
“I feel like a very common question when interviewing John is basically ‘How do you deal with your wife’ and… I don’t love it,” Teigen tweeted.
“It happens a lot,” she added. “‘Does she ask you if certain things are OK to say?’ It’s just very weird to me. No. He doesn’t. I don’t care. And he doesn’t care. End of question.”
She continued: “He usually does the standard ‘No… she knows what she’s doing…’ But it’s not even that. It’s just that I am a different human than him? It is theeeee most common question with him. Please stop.”
“I’m not mad at anyone who has asked this,” she added. “I get that we are very different. It happens a lot though and I’m just not very into it. You don’t ask me how I deal with watching MSNBC every night or what I do while he’s silent for a week.”
Let’s unpack this for a minute, shall we?
What people mean when they ask Legend this question is how he ‘deals’ and ‘copes’ with being married to someone who has a voice and isn’t afraid to use it on social media. Teigen has spoken out about body-shaming, mum-shaming, IVF, postpartum depression and, of course, the drastic political situation in the US right now.
The subtext of that question is: “How do you tolerate this mouthy broad you married?” as one Twitter user summed it up. (“Truly,” Teigen responded. The implied eye roll was silent.)
How is it possible that in the year 2019 some people are still questioning a woman’s right to speak her mind openly, forcefully and with power?
How – seriously, how – can it be that the most common question that John Legend, a very successful musician and performer with an EGOT (an Emmy, several Grammys, an Oscar and a Tony) to his name, is asked in interviews is about how he ‘copes’ with being married to a woman who has, you know, thoughts and opinions?
We’re not in the Victorian era anymore, or in an alternative Gilead-ian universe straight out of The Handmaid’s Tale. Women don’t exist to be the voiceless prop on a man’s arm, someone to be seen and not heard. That’s not what Teigen is to Legend, and to imply that she might be in an interview question is, quite frankly, abhorrent.
We understand that interviewers might ask each of them a question about their respective spouses. We’d ask Teigen about Legend’s true feelings on that meme comparing him to the Arthur cartoon, and also if he really sings the ‘stinky booty’ song whenever he changes one of their children’s nappies. We’d ask Legend whether Teigen would consider becoming our best friend, please.
But essentially asking Legend about whether or not he has considered censoring his wife on social media is deeply misogynistic and it needs to stop.
Teigen is fierce, frank and unapologetic in all aspects of her life, and we hope she never stops talking about the things she is passionate about, from the perfect banana bread recipe to the importance of seeking help when it comes to mental health.
Not only that, but we hope this line of questioning only inspires Teigen to be louder.
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