Chrissy Teigen: we need to stop assuming all women want children

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Chrissy Teigen isn’t afraid to speak her mind. Over the past few months, she’s slammed the concept of relationship goals, encouraged women to embrace their stretchmarks (which she brilliantly dubs “stretchies”) and opened up about her battle with postnatal depression.

Now, the model and author is speaking out again, to challenge the age-old misconception that every woman wants a child.

The 32-year-old, whose first child with husband John Legend was born last year, initially praised an interviewer at Refinery 29 for stating that she wasn’t sure whether she wanted to have kids.

“First of all, I want to commend you in your decision to be open about maybe not having children at all. I think it's really commendable to even doubt the process out loud, because I don't feel like people should be pressured to have children,” she said.

“I'm sure that when you announce that fact to somebody, they're very quick to be like, 'Gasp! Why don't you want kids?’”

Teigen went on to point out that, rather than a universally-shared goal, having a child is ultimately a choice.

“I don't think any of us should assume all women's goals are to have kids,” she said. “It's a choice!"

Teigen has been open in the past about her initial struggles to conceive a child, and spoke in September 2015 of her frustration at constantly being asked when she was going to have a child.

“It's crazy because I can't imagine being that nosy to be like 'So, when are the kids coming?' because who knows what somebody is going through. Who knows if somebody is struggling to have children?,” she said on daytime TV show FABLife.

“So, anytime somebody asks me if I'm going to have kids, I'm like, 'One day, you're going to ask that to the wrong girl who's really struggling and it's going to be really hurtful to them'. And I hate that. I hate it. Stop asking me.”

And the model, who conceived her daughter Luna using IVF, admitted to Refinery 29 that while she knew she wanted children, she still had a moment of fear when she found out she was pregnant.

"I didn't really have any fears in having a kid, just because I knew that I wanted one and we worked so hard to have her,” she said. 

“But I have to say, even when we did the IVF process, and then actually conceived, I looked at John and was like, 'Oh my god, is this right? Were we just jumping into this?'”

Teigen added that motherhood has been a huge transition, and said of all new mums that “you definitely do have to change. You just have to.”

“I don't think you have to feel like you have to give everything up,” she added. 

“But it does change you, and that's why I think you have to be completely ready."

Images: RexFeatures/Instagram


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Sarah Biddlecombe

Sarah Biddlecombe is an award-winning journalist and Digital Commissioning Editor at Stylist. Follow her on Twitter