Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi’s impossibly easy secret to long-term love

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Kayleigh Dray

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi are one of Hollywood’s golden couples. And, despite what regular tabloid reports might claim, the couple say they are every bit as happy today as they are when they tied the knot back in 2008.

Now, speaking to Good Housekeeping, DeGeneres has reflected on her marriage vows – and praised her wife for helping her to feel so content with her life.

“Portia understands me completely,” says the presenter and Finding Dory star. “In our vows, she recited a quote – ‘It is good to be loved. It is profound to be understood’ – and to me, that's everything.

“What ‘I love you’ really means is ‘I understand you,’ and she loves me for everything that I am. She supports me and makes me happy.”

So how do the couple – both of whom enjoy busy careers – make time for one another?

By never compromising on one particular routine, that’s how.

With multiple careers, DeGeneres is one of the first to admit that it can be all too easy to let work take over your life. However, the interview reveals she and de Rossi have set a non-negotiable rule in place – and it’s an incredibly simple one, too.

Every single night, no matter what, the pair have dinner together – and on really good nights, they watch The Bachelorette, too. Genius.

It’s not the first time that DeGeneres has reminded the world not to take their loved ones for granted.

In a 2016 interview with People, the comedian said: “Portia and I constantly say to each other, ‘We are so lucky’.

“Sometimes it’s lying in bed at night before I go to sleep, and I just say thank you to whatever, whoever is out there.”

DeGeneres, who wed Australian actress de Rossi back in 2008, also spoke about how the couple make sure to put each other first.

“Our priorities are each other too,” she said. “If we had kids, then I’m sure they would be, but we are. And that’s important.”

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Kayleigh Dray

Kayleigh Dray is editor of, where she chases after rogue apostrophes and specialises in films, comic books, feminism and television. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends. 

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