“You are not alone,” Union told Oprah. “There’s many paths to parenthood and motherhood. It doesn’t have to match your friend’s, your sister’s, or your mama’s. Every path is beautiful, real, valid and worthwhile. You don’t have to suffer in silence or alone. There’s hope and answers. We got you.”

Union added that it wasn’t her age that impacted her fertility, it was undiagnosed endometriosis. “I would’ve had the same issues in my twenties, but I was not correctly diagnosed or treated,” she said.

She also cautioned against judging women for the decisions they make about their body when it comes to fertility. “If you’re going to be all up in our business, have the right information,” Union said. “There are all different ways you can become parents. Everyone’s journey is different. Everyone’s journey to surrogacy is different. There’s all kind of different routes to that, whether the couple opts to share that with you should be on them.”

“Some couples will tell you everything, and they want to be fully transparent,” she added. “Other people have suffered losses you couldn’t imagine. So how they got to their surrogacy, IVF, IUI, or [fertility treatment] clomid journey is really personal.”

If someone you know is dealing with fertility issues, or has recently had a miscarriage, Union stressed the importance of listening deeply and without judgment. “It’s best to say, ‘How are you doing, is there anything I can do for you, or is there any information you want me to know?’” she told Oprah.

Gabrielle Union shared a powerful reminder about how to talk to women after a miscarriage