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How to survive a broken heart: advice from the A-listers

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Relationship break-downs really can hit hard, something we're reminded of once again with news of Gwyneth Paltrow's "conscious uncoupling" this week. When the chips are down and we've lost the one person who mattered, it feels like all we really want to do is curl up in a duvet and eat our body weight in Doritos or knock back copious amounts of wine and slur along to Eric Carmen lyrics, Bridget Jones-style.

We've all been through it and we all have our own ways of coping, whether it's retail therapy or time with the girls. Here, ten celebrities share their do's and don'ts of surviving heartbreak, from the power of wallowing (nod to Jennifer Aniston) to not cutting your hair (thanks Alexa Chung). Come dig in:

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  • Do wallow if you want

    "Am I lonely? Yes. Am I upset? Yes. Am I confused? Yes. Do I have my days when I've thrown a little pity party for myself? Absolutely. But I'm also doing really well. I'd be a robot if I said I didn't feel moments of anger, of hurt, of embarrassment… [but] You joke and say, 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.'"

    - Jennifer Aniston

  • ... but don't wallow too much

    "You can allow yourself 72 hours of wallowing time. Then you've got to get into the gym, stop eating the ice cream and move on."

    - Jennifer Love Hewitt

  • Do go shopping

    "I love to shop after a bad relationship. I don’t know. I buy a new outfit and it makes me feel better. It just does. Sometimes I see a really great outfit, I’ll break up with someone on purpose."

    - Rita Rudner

  • Don't cut your hair

    "Hair is so linked to how we feel and everyone goes for something radical after a break-up, but my advice if you've suffered heartbreak or you’ve broken up with someone is not to touch your hair. It's the first thing women do but you're not in a fit state to make long-term decisions. You'll have to spend four years growing it out. Buy a lipstick instead. Go and kiss loads of other people, but don't f***ing touch your hair."

    - Alexa Chung

  • Do get back on it

    "Pour yourself a drink, put some lipstick on and pull yourself together"

    - Liz Taylor

  • Don't fall apart

    "I’m not sure what the future holds but I do know that I’m going to be positive and not wake up feeling desperate. As my dad said 'Nic, it is what it is, it’s not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is.'"

    —Nicole Kidman

  • Do have some girl time

    "The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends"

    - Gwyneth Paltrow

  • Don't cry

    "Don't cry for a man who's left you - the next one may fall for your smile."

    - Mae West

  • Do find someone better

    "Sometimes good things fall apart so better things could fall together"

    - Marilyn Monroe

  • Don't play the blame game

    "You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it's a really easy thing to do, and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility?' And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it."

    - Reese Witherspoon

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