Gwyneth Paltrow speaks out about Jennifer Lawrence, her exes and why 'conscious uncoupling' was misunderstood

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In a candid interview, Gwyneth Paltrow has spoken out about ex-husband Chris Martin's relationship with Jennifer Lawrence, her past romances with A-listers Brad Pitt and Ben Affleck and how she consoled friends Jay-Z and Beyonce after the notorious elevator feud in May.

Speaking to radio presenter Howard Stern on SiriusXM, the actress said, "Who says I don't approve of Jennifer Lawrence?", in reference to the fact that her ex-husband, Coldplay singer Chris Martin, is dating The Hunger Games actress.

"I respect him as the father of my children and it's his life, it's his decision... He wouldn't be with someone who isn't great."

Paltrow, 42, added that she "actually (has) a really strong friendship" with Chris Martin, whom she was married to for 11 years and had two children - Apple, 10 and Moses, 7 - with.

"There are times when it's really difficult and things happen and ... I'm sure he doesn't want to hang out with me and I don't want to hang out with him, but for the sake of your kids you do it but you also don't do it all tense. You really say, 'I really want to find my love for you.'"

Last year, the star announced the couple's split on her lifestyle website Goop, labeling their separation as "conscious uncoupling", a phrase the actress received a lot of stick for. 

Addressing the criticism, Paltrow said she borrowed the phrase from a relationship therapist and it was widely misunderstood. "I made a mistake in that I didn't give it context. Like, I didn't say, 'This is...a philosophy. This is not my term...' But it's a very noble idea, and it's a great thing, I think, to try to do for your kids. And it's working, but it is kind of a goofy term. I didn't know it was going to cause such a big thing."

In the hour-long chat, Paltrow went on to talk about her three-year relationship with Brad Pitt in her early twenties. "I definitely fell in love with him," she gushed. "He was so gorgeous, and sweet - I mean, he was Brad Pitt!"

Her parents, the late Bruce Paltrow and actress Blythe Danner, were also fond of Brad: "My father was so devastated when we broke up....My father loved him like he was his son."

In hindsight she blames her split from Brad, whom she was engaged to, on her youth, saying, "I was such a kid, I was 22 when we met."

"It's taken me until 40 to get my head out of my ass. You can't make that decision when you're 22 years old, you know? ... I think I was a kid and I wasn't ready, and he was too good for me."

Nowadays, Gwyneth says she and Brad are "friendly" when they see each other, though she doesn't "hang out with him."

Speaking about her on and off relationship with Ben Affleck between 1997 to 2000, she said her parents weren't as approving: "I think they appreciated how he's super intelligent and he's really, really talented and so funny, but he was not in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend," she says. "I think they were OK with the two of us not being together."

Perhaps one of the most revealing parts of the interview, was when the actress spoke of her close friendship with Jay-Z and Beyonce, whom she first met at a benefit in NYC many years ago.

"We all became friends," she said. "I normally don't do that, but [we vibed] in that particular case...They are funny and sweet, and self-aware and really intelligent."

When asked about her reaction to the the footage of Solange Knowles attacking brother-in-law Jay Z after the Met Gala in May last year, she said that she called the couple.

"If any of my friends have anything like that, I call right away. Absolutely... If someone's clearly going through something, I always go straight for it."

Listen to the full interview with Gwyneth Paltrow below.

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