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Actress Jada Pinkett Smith has opened up about her relationship with sex – and she didn’t hold back.

Jada Pinkett Smith has opened up about her sex life – and revealed that it was her grandmother who taught her about masturbation. 

Speaking on her weekly Red Table Talks Facebook show, Pinkett Smith was joined by daughter Willow Smith and fellow mother Adrienne Banfield-Jones to talk all things sex.

“My grandmother taught me about self-pleasuring because she wanted me to know that pleasure was from me,” she explained.

“She didn’t want me to fall into the hands of a man, and if he gave me pleasure, to think that was him. And she taught me at nine.

“We as women have been trained that women aren’t supposed to enjoy sex, sex is not for women, sex is for men, pleasure is for men — and honestly I think that’s why so many women that I know have never had orgasms.” 

This led to a period of “exploration”.

“I was really into it at one point,” she said. “Just because I was in an exploration state and I was abstaining from men”. 

“I actually think I went through kind of an addiction, too, with it. And then one day, I was just like, ‘Enough. You’re having five orgasms a day.’ Yeah, you get addicted. You can create so much pleasure, you constantly want it.”

Twitter users were divided on her comments – some believed her sex positivity was brilliant, with others taking a harsher tone. 

“I will never be cool enough to discuss sex in as great a detail as Jada Pinkett Smith did with Willow with my daughter!” one user wrote. 

“Never thought I’d say this, but I want my parenting style to be similar to Jada Pinkett-Smith’s… I love the open dialogue between her, her mother & Willow. Just watched the red table ep on Sex. Love love loved,” said another.

Pinkett Smith has long been open about her relationship with sex.

Speaking about her relationship with husband Will Smith, Pinkett Smith said she was “not here to be anyone’s watcher”. 

“He’s a grown man. Here’s what I trust - I trust that the man that Will is, is a man of integrity,” she said. “So, he’s got all the freedom in the world. As long as Will can look himself in the mirror and be okay, I’m good. He is a man of great integrity and he is fine.”

The couple even share crushes with each other, saying you “have to in this business”. 

“Because I’m going to know anyway,” she said. “Here’s what’s real: I’m not the kind of woman that believes a man is not going to be attracted to another woman. It does not mean he doesn’t love you and it does not mean he is going to act on it.

“If he can’t see another woman’s beauty how is he going to see yours. You have got to be human and you’ve got to be who you are. He was on the road as a young guy and there is a lot that you learn about acting on your impulses, you kind of run out,” she added.

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Emily Reynolds is a journalist and author based in London. Her first book, A Beginner’s Guide to Losing Your Mind, came out in February 2017 with Hodder & Stoughton. She is currently working on her second.  

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