Jennifer Lawrence and Darren Aronofsky announced that they had called time on their relationship earlier this year. Now, in a typically frank interview, Lawrence says her romance with the mother! director was “not healthy”.
Monday mornings are always difficult: you have to haul yourself out of bed early, tackle your commute, log into your emails and dive straight back into the stresses of the job. Of course, this all becomes far more enjoyable if you get on with your colleagues, given these are the people we will spend the majority of our time with. And, occasionally these close quarters can create the type of chemistry that leads to something more.
However, while there are undoubtedly benefits to forging an office romance (dating someone who understands the unique demands and pressures of your workplace, for example), there are drawbacks, too. The rumour mill goes into overdrive. You see them all the time, which can feel a little overwhelming. And, if you split, it can be more than a little awkward – and heartbreaking – to have to work together.
It’s a situation that Jennifer Lawrence – who dated Darren Aronofsky, the director of her film mother!, has discussed in a new interview.
Sitting down with Adam Sandler for the Variety Studio’s Actors on Actors series, the Oscar winner said that negative reviews for their film had a hand in ending their relationship.
“Normally, I promote a movie, you put the work into promoting it, ask people to go see it, and then it’s just kind of out of your hands. I normally just kind of let it go,” she told Sandler.
“Dating the director is different.”
Lawrence continued: “We’d be on the [promotional] tour together. I’d come back to the hotel, and the last thing I want to talk about or think about is a movie. He comes back from the tour, and that’s all he wants to talk about and I get it. It’s his baby. He wrote it. He conceived it. He directed it.
“I was doing double duty trying to be a supportive partner while also being like, ‘Can I please, for the love of God, not think about mother! for one second?’”
It was when Aronofsky started reading some of the reviews to her that she began to recognise their relationship as an unhealthy one.
“I finally was just like, ‘It’s not healthy. Neither of us are doing it because if I read it, I start getting defensive.’ Especially because it’s my man,” she said.
“I don’t want to sound in an interview that I’m defending what we’re doing in any way. It’s awesome, what we did. Some people hate it and the people who hate it really hate it. But it’s nothing that needs to be defended and if I read a negative review, I just feel defensive.”
According to a recent survey by CareerBuilder.com, which polled over 7,000 workers, 38% of workers said they have dated a co-worker at least once over the course of their career. Meanwhile, 37% said their office romance led them to the altar.
And, while workplace relationships can “often [prove] disastrous”, Dr Tina Tessina tells The Grindstone that there are a plethora of emotional benefits to dating a colleague.
“The office gives you a chance to actually get to know and even bond with a person before declaring your interest. Working side by side with someone daily, seeing him or her under pressure, commiserating over problems and congratulating over wins gives you a portrait of the person on the inside as well as the outside,” she says.
“The couple develops a relationship ‘infrastructure’ in an organic, natural fashion, as opposed to forcing it. These relationships often last a long time, because they’re reality based.”
We guess it worked for Jim and Pam…
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