Jennifer Lopez brilliantly flips sexist ageism on its head

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Jennifer Lopez is one of the most famous women in the world; she grew up on the streets of the Bronx in New York and became a successful singer and actor – not to mention one of Time magazine’s most influential Hispanic Americans.

Yet, in spite all of that, she remains “Jenny from the block” – and as such, she’s as plain-talking and down to earth as she ever was.

“I have no patience for anything that’s not real,” she tells W Magazine in a new interview. “Just no bulls**t.”

So it’s unsurprising that the 47-year-old star has a refreshing approach to ageism and ageing, saying: “It’s not about perfection”.

From speculation about pregnancy to plastic surgery, it is no secret that women in the public eye are under an enormous amount of pressure to look a certain way.

However J-Lo insists that it’s actually men who have far more to worry about as they grow older, because, she says, they are less emotionally equipped to deal with the ageing process.

She explains: “Men in their 20s are very confident and cocky, and women are super insecure. And then it flips – men get super insecure, and women get comfortable in their own skin, in a way that makes them more beautiful.”

Lopez continues: “I never appreciated my body or my looks when I was in my 20s. Now I’m like, ‘Look at me! Look at you!’ Not in a conceited or arrogant way – I just appreciate myself in a way I didn’t when I was that age.

“And it’s not about perfection. I like the scars that I have.”

Kate Moss, in the same issue of W, agreed with Lopez that she feels far more comfortable in her own skin as she has grown older.

The 43-year-old model was first discovered when she was just 14 by modelling agent Sarah Doukas at a New York airport – and, at the time, the young Moss was incredibly uncertain of her own body.

“My mum said, ‘I don’t think you’re that photogenic!’ ” she admits.

She went on to add: “From the beginning, photographers always got me to take my clothes off, even though I don’t like my body at all.

“I just had to get comfortable with being naked.”

Claudia Winkleman, in a recent interview, admitted that she, too, used to feel the glare of the spotlight upon her. So much so that at one point she considered cosmetic surgery.

“I am 45,” she says. “And at this point my face is actually falling off.

“I had a go with Botox but looked both scared and surprised at the same time. I don’t like to be either.”

Now, however, she has ditched the Botox in favour of her iconic and “unapologetic” fringe – and embraced the ageing process with aplomb.

 “I think I was born aged about 86,” she told the Daily Star. “All I’ve ever wanted to do is stay at home under a duvet and now I’m old I can do that.”

She adds: “My 20s were painful. You had to go out to nightclubs. I love not having to pretend to enjoy those things anymore.”

Images: Rex pictures / Instagram


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Kayleigh Dray

Kayleigh Dray is Stylist’s digital editor-at-large. Her specialist topics include comic books, films, TV and feminism. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends.