There are those who won’t understand that or can’t comprehend it, and they’re the same people who directed online abuse to 18-year-old Sophie Perry in the wake of her father, the actor Luke Perry’s death this year.

But as Sophie so perfectly summed up there is no one right way to grieve.

“Yes I am hurt and sad and crying and beside myself with what happened to my dad,” she wrote. “It’s the worst thing to ever happen in my life. And I am torn the fuck up over it. But I’m not going to sit in my room and cry day in and day out until the internet has deemed it appropriate for me to do otherwise,” she continued. “And if you knew my dad you would know he wouldn’t want me to. So you shouldn’t either.”

“So to those of you shaming me for my language and my wardrobe and most disgustingly, my grieving process, do us both the favour and just unfollow.”

Grief is private and personal, it is intimate, it is scary, it is wild, it is unfathomable, it is endless, it is hidden, it is a place. And it is not one thing. Thank you to Williams and Sophie for reminding us of that fact.

Jessica Williams just perfectly explained why grief feels like a physical place