Kristen Bell has always been very open about the trials and tribulations of her 10-year relationship with her husband Dax Shepard. In short, she’s made sure to make one thing very clear: it’s no easy feat.

Which is why Bell has continued the conversation by discussing the lack of honesty in marriages today during an appearance on The View.

“I think that the one thing that marriages don’t have anymore is honesty,” Bell explained. “We’re playing this sort of Ken and Barbie game, like, ‘These are the rules and they should be applicable to everyone.’”

“I just don’t think that they always work for everyone,” Bell continued. “I also personally believe that attractiveness coming from your partner towards someone, the idea of being offended by that, it’s not really about your partner.”

“It’s about your narcissism,” she said. “And you need to identify that you’re questioning, ‘Why am I not good enough?’”

Kristen Bell reveals the one big thing that most marriages lack in 2018