But oh, my god, how are we not there yet? By which I mean – how are we not, in the year of our Lord 2019, saying these things as a matter of course? Why are they not a wholly unremarkable part of our repertoire, deployed in our service as naturally as breathing and without need of encouragement or support?

Simply put, it’s because saying them would require us to possess an entirely unfettered right to assert and protect ourselves. And people, society – you see, I am already pulling my punches, because the word I actually want to use is ‘men’ – see no advantage in letting that happen. It would seriously undermine the power structures from which they happily benefit.

Thus women making their negative feelings known, clearly and unambivalently, is still so massively disapproved of that it remains astonishingly transgressive and correspondingly rare. And when it does happen, it is frequently penalised in myriad ways, from small to very large.

Lucy Mangan: “We need to practise speaking out – then do it”