It’s all there. Women are not supposed to give vent to their feelings. And the more norms they are already violating – by being black, or rich, or talented, or famous – the less right they have to do so and the more severely they will be punished for it. On a smaller scale, we might get reputations for being ‘difficult’ at work, and excluded from promotions. At home, it might breed further anger in a man bigger, stronger and more willing to express himself physically than us.

To get angry, safely and effectively, you need to be confident in yourself and to know that you are respected – and therefore protected – by the world around you. These are two things that women as a class lack.

But individually, I suspect we could all let out a bit more rage without coming to harm, and in doing so benefit ourselves and other women. Every time we stand up for ourselves, or shout back, we shift the boundary a little. We teach ourselves and those around us that things can be done differently.

I’m going to try and dip my toes in the rage pool more often. Join me – we might just find the water’s lovely.

“It’s time we all dipped our toes into the rage pool”