People have all sorts of expectations of how marriage will change a relationship – but Margot Robbie has, in a new interview, revealed that only one aspect of her life has changed since she made Tom Ackerley her legal partner.
Speaking to Vogue Australia, Robbie shakes her head over the idea that marriage is a magical potion that serves to amplify adoration, reduce deep-seated feelings or resentment and erase any and all fears of commitment. The only thing that has changed after her low-key wedding, she adds, is the fact that she now has the option to wear a wedding ring.
However, Robbie – who married Ackerley in an intimate surprise ceremony – is keen to stress that she only does this when it is practical or convenient for her to do so.
“That’s the thing, [Tom and I] were best friends and roommates before and now we’re like best friends and roommates still, so nothing’s really changed at all,” she says, “other than the fact that I get to wear this [ring] on the weekends.
“I obviously can’t wear it during the week when I’m working – I don’t want to lose it on set!”
Robbie, who is the self-described president of her own production company, LuckyChap (which she runs with Ackerley and a group of their closest friends), goes on to reveal that she has made it her business to take control of her own destiny and produce nothing but badass female-driven content.
“I feel like I’ve been in the business long enough now watching other people make those decisions,” she says. “So now I get to be one of those people who say, ‘Hey, maybe we should do it a little differently’. It’s nice to have that opportunity.
“It’s enormously satisfying to build something and to be part of something and to take control of my career.”
So it’s unsurprising, then, that Robbie identifies as a feminist – although she admits that she was formerly scared to label herself in such a way.
“A couple of years ago I was almost scared to say I was because it had so many negative connotations, like, ‘If you’re a feminist, you hate men,’” she said.
“I’ve been listening to a lot of TED Talks lately on new-wave feminism and it’s not about hating men, and men can be feminists too. My favourite definition of a feminist is ‘any person who believes in gender equality in a social, emotional, financial respect’, and that means Tom’s a feminist, I’m a feminist.”
Earlier this year, Robbie addressed the decades-long history of sexual harassment and abuse accusations against producer Harvey Weinstein in a powerful open letter to Hollywood that she had been compelled to write after watching The Breakfast Club ahead of the event, elle.com reports.
Inspired by the fictional students’ assignment to write a 1,000-word essay on “who you think you are”, Robbie questioned the way that women are perceived in Hollywood and how that holds them back, claiming that despite women spending the previous week sharing stories and standing up for their rights, those in power “still see us as you want to see us: in the simplest terms and the most convenient definitions.”
“Even those of us lucky enough to have established a career in the hallowed grounds of show business are still in the shadows of the big trees, constantly reminded that we only grow in the sunshine they allow us,” she said.
Thanking Weinstein’s accusers for sparking a “real change”, Robbie went on to say that it has given herself and others the opportunity to “not only highlight the painful inequities, but […] to speak out as long as they exist”.
Robbie finished with an empowering call to action and reminded us that we, as women, are always stronger when we stand alongside one another.
“So thinking about being a woman in Hollywood reminded me that when you take away Hollywood, we are all just women, all facing the inequalities that being a women brings with it,” she said. “And, what I’ve come to understand is that, though we are unique and powerful as individuals, we are invincible when we come together.”
Read the full letter here.
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