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How Miley Cyrus is redefining what it means to be queer in a heterosexual marriage

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The singer has spoken about the importance of her fluid sexuality to her relationship and her self.

On 23 December of 2018, Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth were married.

It was a low-key ceremony for close family and friends, at which Cyrus joked that she got to skip to the front of the buffet queue and larked around with her bouquet, using it as a faux unicorn horn and as a phallic symbol in her wedding pictures.

These images, shared on Cyrus’ social media channels, were evidence that the singer was going to approach marriage in her own inimitable way, something that has only been confirmed in her new interview with Vanity Fair.

In it, Cyrus talks about how her pansexuality and identity a queer person has shaped and transformed her relationship with Hemsworth, and how their concept of marriage is being redefined constantly by Cyrus’ own understanding of her self.

“The reason that people get married sometimes can be old-fashioned, but I think the reason we got married isn’t old-fashioned, I actually think it’s kind of New Age,” Cyrus explained. “We’re redefining, to be f**king frank, what it looks like for someone that’s a queer person like myself to be in a hetero relationship.”

Cyrus added: “A big part of my pride and my identity is being a queer person. What I preach is: People fall in love with people, not gender, not looks, not whatever. What I’m in love with exists on almost a spiritual level. It has nothing to do with sexuality.”

“Like who gives a f**k if he’s a guy, if I’m a girl, or if he was a woman, who gives a f**k?” 

Cyrus and Hemsworth met on the set of their movie The Last Song in 2009, and dated for a year before breaking up in 2013. During that time, Cyrus dated both men and women including Patrick Schwarzenegger and Stella Maxwell, the supermodel ex-girlfriend of Kristen Stewart. Hemsworth, too, dated other women.

The relationship was back on with a vengeance in 2015, and since then both Cyrus and Hemsworth have spoken openly about working through the breakup to make their partnership as strong as it could be.

“Changing with someone else not changing like that is too hard,” Cyrus said of their breakup to Billboard in 2017. “Suddenly you’re like, ‘I don’t recognise you anymore.” She added that the pair had to “refall for each other”. 

Today, Cyrus calls Hemsworth her “survival partner”. The couple have weathered every possible storm, including the shock destruction of their house in California during the 2018 Malibu wildfires.

“My relationship is very special to me, it is my home,” Cyrus told Vanity Fair. “I feel less misplaced when we are in the same room, no matter where that is, but just because something changes in my relationship doesn’t mean something has to drastically change in my individuality.”

She added: “What Liam and I went through together changed us. I’m not sure without losing Malibu, we would’ve been ready to take this step or ever even gotten married, who can say? But the timing felt right and I go with my heart.” 

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