Before you dive headfirst into a series of tough resolutions for 2020, start with a little self-love – here’s Millie Bobby Brown to explain why.
If 2019 has taught us anything, it’s that young voices such as Greta Thunberg often have the greatest wisdom – and clear-headed vision – of all.
And now 15-year-old actor Millie Bobby Brown has driven home the point with some powerful advice as we head into 2020.
With the world’s population facing record levels of stress and burnout, Brown’s simple plea for self-acceptance comes at a critical time.
As Brown’s heartfelt post indicates, the key to stemming this wave of pressure is by having the courage to be yourself, in all your true and unfiltered flaws.
And a major part of taking that step comes from self-compassion.
The ability to be kind to yourself is easier said than done, but – as science shows – it’s also far more effective than self-criticism as a medium for motivation and growth.
If you want to change, in other words, it all starts with a bit of self-acceptance.
So, how to begin on a journey to caring for yourself?
Comedian and presenter London Hughes suggests we start by shutting down the negativity.
“Remember you are the best thing in your life,” she tells Stylist. “In a society that profits off your self-doubt, loving yourself is a rebellious act.”
“If someone says to you, ‘you look really, really nice in that dress’, I bet you turn around and say, ‘oh really? Because it makes me look fat and it’s got a stain on it. It’s old. It’s from a charity shop. It’s actually my sister’s, I stole it from her. It looks way better on her.’
“JUST TAKE THE COMPLIMENT, WOMAN!” Hughes continues. “Own your awesomeness. The next time someone tells you look nice in something, just turn around and say ‘Thank you. I think so too.’”
“How do you react? Would you tell her she’s a stupid idiot? A failure? Would you turn away in disgust, convinced there must be ‘something wrong with her’? Of course you wouldn’t.
“When it comes to your best friend, you love and accept her, you appreciate all her amazing qualities and importantly, you’re on her side. Think about how you’d speak to your best friend the next time you catch yourself giving yourself a hard time.”
With that, we’re off to conjure up a little self-compassion – what better way to herald in a brand new decade?