Nicole Kidman opens up about the “enormous pain” she felt after miscarrying

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Actress Nicole Kidman has revealed that she had a miscarriage and an ectopic pregnancy while married to fellow actor Tom Cruise in the Nineties. 

The conversation of women miscarrying pregnancies is still approached with a lot of caution and taboo today.

Which is why Nicole Kidman has described her own grief at miscarrying and experiencing an ectopic pregnancy in the hope that more women will openly discuss the subject as it happens to so many couples.

“I know the yearning. That yearning. It’s a huge, aching yearning. And the loss. The loss of a miscarriage is not talked about enough,” Kidman recently told Tatler. “That’s massive grief to certain women.”

Kidman was just 23 when she miscarried her first child, shortly after marrying Tom Cruise in 1990. The Oscar-winning actress suffered an ectopic pregnancy – when a fertilised egg implants itself outside the womb, usually in one of the fallopian tubes.

According to the NHS, around one in every 80 to 90 pregnancies in the UK is ectopic, amounting to around 12,000 pregnancies a year. 

Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman were married for 11 years 

The Big Little Lies actress then suffered a miscarriage in 2001. 

“There’s an enormous amount of pain and an enormous amount of joy on the other side of it,” Kidman said, describing the feeling of (eventually) becoming a mother.

“The flipside of going through so much yearning and pain to get there is the feeling of ‘Ahhhh!’ when you have the child.”

Before Cruise filed for divorce in 2001, the pair adopted two children, Isabella and Connor.

Now married to country singer, Keith Urban, the couple have naturally conceived two children, Sunday Rose and Faith. Her seond daughter, was born through surrogate. 

You can read other women’s stories of miscarriage here.

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