The main thing to remember, explains Dr Ben-Ari, is to avoid blaming or shaming. “Instead, speak from your experience, expressing your feelings and desires. Share your appreciation for their good intentions, and be vulnerable by sharing your struggles and specifying how you need their help and support.

“When people are vulnerable and open about their situations, others are more likely to offer support. You might want to briefly explain your approach or provide them with a book that articulates your perspective. Engage with your community – friends, other family members, or therapists – to reflect on these experiences.

“This practice will help you remain open to seeing the situation from various perspectives.”

And so, with these warm words of wisdom ringing in my ears, I’m off to continue to do battle – politely, respectfully – for my daughter. Wish me luck…

You can find further advice from Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari via her website www.kalanitbenari.com – or her parenting platform Get The Village.

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