Rochelle Humes brilliantly explains why she’d rather be respected than liked

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Five Minute Philosopher is a weekly series in which Stylist gets profound with people we love. What will This Morning presenter Rochelle Humes make of our existential questions?

What is the meaning of life?

I think that everyone is here for a reason and a purpose, and it’s your job to figure out what that is.

What is the difference between right and wrong?

That feeling. You know instantly. I always go with my gut.

Where is your happy place?

Anywhere with my husband and my kids. Home or away, us together is always my happy place. 

Nature or nurture?

I’m a real strong believer in both. There are some things that are in you because of your DNA and some things that are a product of your environment and what you’ve been around.

Is it more important to be liked or respected?

There’s a fine line between them, but I’d rather be respected. If people like you it’s a very personal thing, but respect is so important.

If you could be remembered for one thing what would it be?

Hopefully my positive outlook and how I work to make things more positive.

Who or what is your greatest love?

I’ve said it before, but my family. There’s no love like it.

When did you last lie?

I lie to my children every day. Just little things to get them out the door when the school run is happening. White lies. 

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Does the supernatural exist?

Probably. I don’t have any experience with it, but it can’t just be us.

Are you fatalistic?

I believe that what’s meant to be doesn’t pass you by, so yeah.

What is your greatest fear? 

Flying, which I have to do so much for work. I think it’s the not being in control – so actually, maybe that’s my biggest fear.

Animals or babies?

That is a really hard one. I’m such a baby person but I’m also an animal lover. But babies.

What talent do you yearn for?

I’d really like to be a gymnast and be super flexible.

Do you like to be complimented?

No, I hate it. I get really awkward and really British. If someone says I look nice I say, “No, I’m really tired!” I end up correcting them with a negative.

Do you have a high pain threshold?

I’ve had two kids, so yeah. 

What book do you recommend most to others?

The Secret [by Rhonda Byrne]. I really believe in the law of attraction and that if you put things out there they’ll come to fruition.

Which lesson has been the hardest to learn?

Learning how to say no has really been hard for me. It took me the whole of my 20s to grasp and it wasn’t until last year, just before turning 30, that I came into my own and was able to say, “I don’t want to do this” or “That’s not right for me”. Whatever it may be, not necessarily a work thing but life things too.

What food sums up happiness?

A massive bowl of pasta. I do really love Japanese food, but there’s no smile on my face like after a big bowl of pasta.

What have you never understood?


What is the one thing you want to know before you die?

Where we go after. I don’t believe that’s the end, but no one living can tell us that.

Are you scared of dying or what happens when you die?

Yeah, I am actually. So maybe that’s my biggest fear. I don’t ever not want to be here.

Quinoa or Quavers?

Quavers. At the moment that’s all my two-year-old eats so I’ve always got a packet in my bag.

The Hit List, presented by Rochelle and Marvin Humes, starts on 25 May at 7.30pm on BBC One 

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Chloe Gray

Chloe Gray is the senior writer for's fitness brand Strong Women. When she's not writing or lifting weights, she's most likely found practicing handstands, sipping a gin and tonic or eating peanut butter straight out of the jar (not all at the same time).

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