Sarah Silverman on not having children: “You can't be a woman without sacrifice”

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Kayleigh Dray

Sarah Silverman, as Kate Beckinsale frequently reminds us, is a fantastic honorary stepmum to Beckinsale and Michael Sheen’s teenage daughter, Lily.

However, clearly tired of being asked why she hasn’t ever had children of her own, Silverman has now taken to Twitter to explain that she felt she had to make a choice between having children and being a successful stand-up and actor.

The 46-year-old tweeted: “As a comic always working and on the road, I have had to decide between motherhood and living my fullest life and I chose the latter.

“Men don't have to do that. I'd so love to be a fun dad, coming home from the road and being my best fun dad self.

“So this is just a lil f**k all y'all, because you can't be a woman without sacrifice, and that's the fact, jack.”

Silverman added: “I love my comedian brothers that acknowledge this truth. They're my family, and, for a lot of us women comic sisters, our only family.”

Silverman, who has been dating Beckinsale’s ex, Sheen, for two years, has forged an incredibly strong friendship with the Underworld actor during this time.

And, speaking about her relationship with her ex’s new girlfriend, Beckinsale previously thanked Silverman for providing their 17-year-old daughter with another female role model.

Sarah Silverman and Michael Sheen
Sarah Silverman and Michael Sheen

“I really love his girlfriend as well, and we are really lucky that we both get on, and Lily gets on great with her,” she told ES Magazine.

“Having as many strong females in your teenage daughter’s life as possible is a good thing.”

Kate Beckinsale and Sarah Silverman
Kate Beckinsale and Sarah Silverman

Sheen himself has also spoken out about his ex’s relationship with his new partner, telling Netflix’s Chelsea Handler that “it helps that she actually likes Sarah more than she likes me”.

He added: “The only way it doesn't work out is that now I have not only Sarah, but also Kate and my daughter Lily, who all just make fun of me and embarrass me at any given point.”

Sheen, Beckinsale, and Silverman
Sheen, Beckinsale, and Silverman

And, for those wondering how Silverman feels about the arrangement, she’s absolutely on board, too.

“[Sheen] and Kate are like brother and sister,” she said, when quizzed about her partner’s relationship with his ex. “I love her, she’s hilarious. She’s really, really cool.”

Images: Rex Pictures


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