Selena Gomez’s ‘Lose You To Love Me’ is a self-love anthem for anyone healing after a break-up

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Selena Gomez has released a new song about moving on after a relationship, and fans think it’s her final goodbye to Justin Bieber.

There’s nothing quite like your first love; taking that bold leap into the unknown with the reckless abandon capable only of someone who has never had their heart broken before. 

Sadly though, there’s also nothing quite like the agonising thud that comes with losing that love either; the first real, knee-buckling heartbreak when things become less rosy. 

Most of us remember this all too well, and know it’s a time for healing and self care, whether that’s daily face masks and long hot baths, spending time with loved ones or taking time for self-reflection.

Which is why new Selena Gomez’s song “Lose You To love Me” will resonate with so many.

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Although she doesn’t name names, fans are convinced the new track is about her on-again-off-again relationship with Justin Bieber, which after a brief rekindling, came to an end for good in March 2018. A few months later, Bieber started dating Hailey Baldwin (now Bieber), whom he married that September.

While Gomez has not talked about her love life publicly since the split, the single, which was released at midnight on Wednesday, is a glimpse into the actress’ headspace over the past year, reflecting about finding herself after a relationship, moving on and learning to love herself again.

Ahead of the song’s release, Gomez announced the track was “inspired by many things that have happened in my life since releasing my last album”. She continued, “I want people to feel hope and to know you will come out the other side stronger and a better version of yourself.”

The lyrics, co-written by Julia Michaels and Finneas O’Connell, among others, reflect on going into a relationship “blindly”, wearing “rose-colored glasses,” and ignoring the “signs” that something isn’t right. But then, she sings: “And now the chapter is closed and done. And now it’s goodbye, goodbye for us.”

Many believe this track is about Gomez finding some much-needed closure and bidding a final farewell to her first love, and it is. However, at its core, this is a song about loving yourself enough to leave behind a relationship that was no longer serving you, once and for all, out of love and respect for yourself.

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Jessica Rapana

Jessica Rapana is a journalist based in London, and enjoys writing across all areas of women’s lifestyle content. She is especially fond of news, health, entertainment and travel content, and drinks coffee like a Gilmore Girl.