If you’re a woman and you occasionally like to leave the house, you’ve probably experienced your fair share of unwanted male attention.

And how you respond to creepy behaviour likely depends largely on how you’re feeling that day. We all know that we should call sexual harassment out when it happens, but sometimes we simply don’t have the energy to be furious. It feels easier, somehow, to just take a deep breath and move away; to attempt to rise above it, to put it out of our minds.

But then sometimes someone does something, and something snaps. It could be a stranger groping you on the tube, or a creepy colleague making a sexist comment. Whatever your tipping point is, you suddenly feel the rage begin to broil in the pit of your stomach. “No,” you think. “Enough now. That’s enough.”

Enter Taylor Swift, who reached her own personal tipping point when a man allegedly groped her backstage at one of her concerts.

“Frantic, distressed, violated”: Taylor Swift describes alleged groping incident