If you choose to get married, the build-up to your wedding day should, in theory, be a time of busy excitement and happy anticipation. However, for many brides-to-be, the pre-wedding period is spent dealing with rebuffing other people’s unsolicited opinions about how they and their wedding days should look.

One of the most prevalent sources of pressure for many women is the assumption that they must want to lose weight before their ‘big day’. No matter that your friends, family and future spouse presumably already know what you look like; no matter that not everyone aspires to a super-slim body. The idea that preparing for marriage should necessitate ‘getting in shape’ is a pervasive one, and one that has led to the creation of an entire sub-industry.

There are wedding dress diet plans and wedding-themed workout gear. You can even, if you so desire, pay a doctor to hook you up to a feeding tube. Wedding weight loss is a lucrative business, and it’s one that largely exists to capitalise on women’s insecurities.

But Cassie Young isn’t interested in losing weight before her wedding – so when a personal trainer recently tried to body-shame her into hiring him, she responded in the best way possible.

Young, a US radio host and photographer, became engaged to her partner of a decade in early August. Like many women in 2017, she posted excitedly about her engagement on social media. Shortly after, she received a direct message on Twitter from a man she didn’t know, who claimed to be a personal trainer.

Bride-to-be has some choice words for personal trainer who tried to body-shame her