So, purely based on psychology, being with someone who has a different attachment style to you can improve the chances of a strong relationship.

“According to the study, being in a relationship with a partner who has a different attachment style can act as a buffer and potentially improve the chances of relationship success,”she says. “So, it might be beneficial for someone with an avoidant or anxious attachment style to be with a partner who has a healthier attachment style, such as secure attachment.”

Of course, you can’t always chose who you fall in love with. And you yourself might be avoidant or anxious. Mace recommends understanding your own attachment style and your partner’s attachment style so that you can work on communicating fears and needs together. Even if you both share the same attachment style, communication can help you get past any hurdles – without the need of a buffer.

“If you suspect that your partner has an avoidant or anxious attachment style, open communication is key,” she says. “Encourage honest conversations about feelings and needs, express empathy and consider seeking couples therapy to address any underlying issues and improve relationship dynamics.”

Is your attachment style acting as a ‘buffer’ for your partner?