If you could relive one ordinary day with me, which would it be and why?

“Love is built in the quiet, in-between moments – not just the milestones,” says Tiwari. “This question explores the everyday experiences that mean the most to your partner and could be moments that you may have overlooked.” It may uncover what is truly meaningful to your partner and the parts of your relationship they particularly prioritise and enjoy.

What is a belief or value you hold that you feel people often misunderstand?

This question “gives your partner a safe space to share what it is exactly that shapes them as a person, without fear of judgment”, says Tiwari. “There’s something profoundly intimate about being understood to your very core… [And] creating the space for these kinds of conversations will allow you to properly understand and reconnect with each other on a much deeper level.”

If our relationship were a film, what would be the biggest plot twist?

Humour can play a big role in communicating with your partner. “This question is a lighthearted but revealing way to explore how your partner sees your journey together,” says Tiwari. “What has been unexpected? What has changed the course of the relationship over the years? What did they never see coming?” Be prepared for your partner’s answers to differ from yours – that’s what keeps life interesting.

What is something I do that makes you feel deeply loved, even though I might not realise it?

“We often love and care in ways we don’t even register,” says Tiwari. “Similar to exploring each other’s love language, this question shines a light on the gestures, big or small, that have left a lasting impact on your partner.”

When did you last feel truly seen by me?

“There’s nothing more essential in love and relationships than feeling acknowledged and recognised for who you really are,” says Tiwari. This question should help you understand the moments that matter to your partner – and where “you might be missing each other and need to bridge a gap”.

What is a risk you’d love us to take together?

Growth and adventure keep long-term relationships alive. “Whether it’s a physical, emotional or life-changing risk, this question helps you tap into what excites and challenges you both, and how you can embrace that sense of adventure in a way that works for your relationship,” says Tiwari.

Is there a part of yourself you’ve held back in our relationship?

“True intimacy is about being fully seen and known, both ways,” says Tiwari. “This question creates space for honesty, allowing each partner to bring more of themselves to the table and being brave about sharing what may be left unseen.”

What is something you’ve wanted to thank me for but never have?

Gratitude has a gentle way of softening everything, says Tiwari. “This particular question invites unspoken appreciation, revealing the moments of love and care that may have gone unnoticed at the time but are now being appreciated.”

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