Be cautious of keeping a relative in your life only because you’re still secretly hoping for that big resolution. Treacher tells us: “It may only hurt you to keep hoping someone will change when clearly their capacity for empathy for your situation is blocked.”

“The real healing is in focusing on caring for your hurt, and learning that you are in control of receiving your own care and respect, and the care of others who are capable of giving it,” she continues. “This involves providing compassion for yourself, as well as accepting others exactly as they really are. Seeing us all in our human defensive limitations and offerings, without feeling there is anything we have to do to fix this in them.”

You don’t have to forgive your family to recover, but it can certainly help.

“Forgiving someone who has caused you pain does not mean you condone or accept their actions,” says Baker. “Being able to forgive doesn’t mean befriending someone who has hurt you. It means you understand the source of their inability and their limitations. It means you understand and with understanding comes compassion not just for yourself but more like forgiveness of the world. Choosing to forgive is not a path for everyone. It might be an option for you to explore.”

Healing is possible, and you can move forward in a positive way – with or without your family member’s support.

Like Prince Harry, you might never get an apology from your family - how can you heal anyway?