Rather than thinking about how to win, it's about working out how this argument can help your relationship thrive. We asked the experts how to argue better.

How to argue better in a relationship: 17 expert tips

positive

Talk about arguments… when you’re <i>not</i> arguing

Remember: underneath their anger there is probably hurt

Realise it’s often not about the toothpaste

Recognise that arguments in a relationship aren’t about being right

See the best in your partner rather than the worst

Think of each argument as an opportunity to problem-solve

Pick your moments, avoid accusations and never do it over text: how to argue better with your partner, according to experts