Spelman offers a few tips on how to have successful, effective conversations about interior design with your partner.

1. Start by identifying your common goals and priorities for the space.

This way, you’ll be starting on common ground. “If you both want a comfortable and cosy living room, you can work towards finding a design that achieves that goal,” she says.

2. Consider each other’s needs and preferences.

Communicate what you need and what you want. This way, you can both identify areas where you are able to make some concessions. “If one partner prefers a minimalist design and the other prefers a more traditional design, you can look for ways to incorporate elements of both styles into the design,” she says.

3. Be willing to make compromises.

“You may need to give up some of your preferences to find a design that works for both of you,” Spelman says. Be willing to sacrifice.

4. Take your time and don’t rush the decision-making process.

Remember, there’s no rush. You can have slow, thoughtful discussions to really weigh up all of your options. “It’s better to take the time to find a design that you both love rather than rushing into a decision that you may regret later,” says Spelman.

If all else fails, it may be worth seeking outside help. “If you find yourself stuck, you could also consider getting a third opinion from a neutral party, such as an interior designer,” suggests Alderson. “At the end of the day, the goal is the same — to create a beautiful, comfortable home that you’ll both enjoy spending quality time in as a couple.”

With true compromise and plenty of calm communication, it is possible to find design solutions that suit both of you. After all, that’s what romantic relationships are all about. And if you’re willing to give up some of your treasures, your partner can give up their awful wagon wheel coffee table, too.

How to talk to your partner about interior design