What do you do when you realise your partner doesn't want children – but you do? Four top relationship therapists share their advice on what to do next.

"My partner doesn't want kids. I do": 4 therapists on what to do

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<p>“I’m 31 and have been with my partner (who’s 33) for four years. We met through mutual friends, instantly hit it off and have had the best time with each other since – we’ve been renting a flat together for the past year. When we met, neither of us was quite sure where we stood on whether we wanted children, but recently we’ve both hit a crossroads and decided different things. I’ve realised that I do want children, and he’s not completely sure but is leaning towards no. It’s such a major decision that it doesn’t feel like something we can compromise on, but equally, I don’t want to lose him. What should I do? There’s a chance that he might change his mind, but I can’t bank on it. Not having children would be painful, but so would breaking up, and it feels like time’s running out to decide…”
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“There’s a chance that he might change his mind, but I can’t bank on it and I’m running out of time.”

“I want kids. My partner doesn’t. What now?”: 4 relationship therapists share their honest advice