“Definitely guilty of some of these in the past,” commented one user. “Nobody is perfect for sure but I’m glad I have learned and am learning.”

Another user shared how dating an insecure person affected their own wellbeing, writing: “It really wears you down when you are with someone who is insecure. Because you feel like you are always being tested and quizzed. You begin to feel trapped and find it you are draining all your energy trying to please and soothe your partner.”

“Insecurities are something we all experience but it’s essential to recognise this in ourselves and the people we’re dating,” said another. “Then we can learn how to best navigate through those challenges as a couple or decide if it’s best to do so separately. Understanding and communication are at the heart of it all”.

“No partner is perfect, and many of these behaviours could come from past relationship issues, a history of trauma or other emotional baggage, so they deserve more empathy and compassion,” Yap added. “However, if you have communicated to them you don’t feel comfortable with their actions and they brush it off, get defensive or are not willing to change, then that might be a red flag you should consider.”

Relationships: how to deal with an insecure partner, according to an expert