1. You find you’re spending less and less time together

Of course, you don’t have to be inseparable in order to be a successful couple. In fact, having your own identity and time apart is a green flag when it comes to a healthy relationship. But distance can and will take its toll on intimacy, and may lead you to question whether quality time together is a priority for both parties.

2. You start hiding things from your partner – items you’ve bought, plans you’ve made, people you’ve seen

While everyone, in a relationship or otherwise, has a right to privacy, if you find yourself behaving secretively on a regular basis, it may indicate a lack of trust between you and your partner.

3. You regularly look for reasons not to go home

At the end of a girls’ night, do you find yourself wishing that you didn’t have to return home to your partner? If you do, try and interrogate why you might feel this way. What about your home environment is unappealing to you? What could you or your partner do to change the dynamic to make it a comfortable space for you both?

4. You actively arrange nights out without your partner

Similarly, if you’re not excited about the prospect of spending time with your loved one outside of the home, it’s likely a sign of disconnect and tension within the relationship. Once again: space is important, avoidance could be a red flag.

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