But while situationships are difficult to move on from, it’s not impossible. And somewhere in between my feeble WhatsApp strategy and Swift’s far showier approach of releasing a 31-track album, there are some steps you can take to let go. “Remember, it’s a process. Stop checking their social media and stop talking about them to every single person – it only creates an illusion of control,” says Dr Zuckerman.

For real control, you can instead practise setting boundaries: “Let’s say they call you at the last minute and ask: ‘Do you want to go to dinner tonight?’ Even though it’s the most difficult thing to do, say no. And see what happens.” And if you want to avoid finding yourself in a situationship altogether, Ury advises being upfront about what you want with your next partner. “No matter what the person tells you they’re looking for, believe them. If you don’t get the results you want, don’t try to change their mind,” she advises.

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